Dating at church One night stand college
Partcipation, volunteering, and connection are happening on all levels. People are going to date in the church, it makes sense. What about events that are planned like Brunches or Dancing? I think it can isolate and segregate the community.
People are going to “hook-up”, lie, fight, and do other nasty things that disrupt the wholeness GOD wants…in the church. That being said, members within the oh-my-gosh-I-want-a-date community should continue to meet.
Church is an ideal space to meet people; but church is meant for more than that. Dating and relationships can teach us so much, but still endings suck. Maybe it is a cop-out, but dealing with the messiness might not be worth it. ”It is rarely just a damn date, because either side could be more invested.
A healthy church has a vibrant, diverse, and flourishing community. Hearts that beat, hope, dream, and desire are involved.99% of dating relationships will end, notice I didn’t say fail, just end. I don’t care if it is the end of Lord of the Rings and Frodo is leaving Sam behind (well not really, read the books) or if that girl that I have been dating calls it off. It naturally disrupts the lives of the people involved. Decisions are made on who stays at the church, or if you are lucky and there are multiple services, who goes to which service. We all put undo pressure on even a coffee date, especially the older we get. I don’t think it is the church’s responsiblity to host events for us single folk.
Yesterday an article about dating was posted on a church Facebook group.
But if you are in a context in which you have watched the person’s godliness, you have marveled at their character, you have rejoiced in what God has done in them and through them, then speed isn’t a big factor. What drove the speed wasn’t a flare-up of emotions — it wasn’t a fear of loneliness, or desperation, like maybe this is my only shot. Rather, there was knowledge of his faithfulness to God, his desire to serve the Lord, and his seriousness about the things of God.Lastly, how in the world are guys suppose to know who is single?I mean really, just ask a girl out on a date …right. The reason why some guys don’t ask girls on dates within their own community, is because they have already thought through the aforementioned questions.If you are single, and you want a guy/girl to ask you out, show up to those events. It will be a lot easier for people to connect, for singles to meet other singles, who might actually never date but become friends.It will be easier for you to get to know a potential suitor without the pressure of being asked out in front of your friends right after the benediction.
Search for dating at church:
But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.